By Shirin Yadegar
Valentine’s Day can often feel commercial, flashy, and centered on grand romantic gestures. But as a mother, I’ve come to see February 14th as something far more meaningful: an opportunity to root our families in the deeper foundation of love as action.
In Judaism, love is not just a feeling — it is a mitzvah, a sacred responsibility. The Torah teaches, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Rabbi Hillel famously said that this principle is the essence of the entire Torah; the rest is commentary. Love, in our tradition, is not passive. It is something we choose, something we practice.
And what better place to practice it than at home? (more…)

I was sitting in my living room in Melbourne, getting ready to light my menorah for Chanukah, when an alert came through on my phone at 7.15pm, from our Jewish security community group. It said there was “an incident in Sydney this evening, which may have occurred at a community event.” I wasn’t too alarmed; I was used to these kinds of alerts. But only minutes later, my phone started pinging with texts of more details. People had been shot, killed at a Chanukah gathering in Bondi Beach. Fatalities kept rising. In the end, they would amount to the largest terrorist event ever to occur on Australian soil. Fifteen dead. Forty in hospital. It was – and still is – impossible to comprehend it.
I spoke with a leading business coach for working moms who guides her clients take the strength out of stories like “I should be farther along in my career” when comparing to other women, or “I am ruining my kids” when you pick up your child at 3:30 PM at the day care instead of 3 PM. She admitted most of her clients forgot what it takes to make them happy. It often becomes a glass of wine after the kids are in bed and Netflix.
You made it through the Terrible Twos—the tantrums, the power struggles, the overwhelming sense of “What now?”; only to find yourself, years later, staring down the next developmental storm: Middle School. And what a storm it is, hopefully this will help you navigagte this voyage.
Over time, after October 7, I heard the voices of Jewish community leaders in the diaspora (thank you for your advocacy and leadership) urging me to be a loud and proud Jew. But I did not feel loud. I felt helpless, weak, and wordless. Proud Jew? Yes. But, what did my Jewishness actually mean to me? I wanted to be a loud and proud Jew, but I didn’t know how – or even fully why.