If we create a rhythm with our children based on negative behavior, such as focusing on the NO’s in life, and the ‘you can’t do that’ and the ‘you’re being a bad boy or girl’ then eventually that combination of thoughts and beliefs will get stored into their subconscious mind.
By Todd Kurpil
In this day and age we are waking up to the idea that how we treat ourselves is how we treat our children. We realize that our attitude and state of mind strongly influence our children’s behavior. We see that however compassionate, kind and loving we are to ourselves will carry over into how we treat our children. We also see how anger, depression and fear can carry over into our children. This is called Parent Suggestion. Our children see us, hear us and feel us when they are around us, and all of this information gets stored in the basket of their subconscious mind.
The Subconscious mind is an energetic basket that holds our thoughts and beliefs within it. If we create a rhythm with our children based on negative behavior, such as focusing on the NO’s in life, and the ‘you can’t do that’ and the ‘you’re being a bad boy or girl’ then eventually that combination of thoughts and beliefs will get stored into their subconscious mind. When they mature into adulthood, they will attract situations that reflect back the negative vibration that I described. Disapproval. Restriction. Shame.
On the other hand, if we create a rhythm with our children based in the positive behavior, such as focusing on the YES’s in life, we create a framework in which they are celebrated and embraced. Changing our no’s to yes’s can be as simple as saying “Yes, you can have a banana, after you eat your dinner tonight” rather than just saying NO when they ask for one ten minutes before dinnertime. It’s as simple as saying “You CAN have that toy, as soon as your sister is finished playing with it, or after you take your nap, etc.” rather than NO, you can’t. Eventually that combination of thought and belief will get stored into their subconscious mind and when they mature into adulthood they will attract situations that reflect back the positive vibration that I described.
Since our children see, hear and feel everything we do what would be a rhythmic process that can help us be more conscious, balanced and grounded? The answer is Meditation. Or we can call it a Mental Practice. Almost every parent I meet wants their children to have a disciplined, healthy mind and they believe that meditation would be good for their children. I am here to tell you that if you want your children to do mental practices then you have to learn how to do them and be in rhythm with that every day. A few things will change in your life when you have a daily rhythmic mental practice:
• You help to create a balanced and grounded self
• You set the tone of your home which allows all who live there to be more at peace
• Eventually, if not right away, your children will be curious and want to be a part of what you are doing
• Over time your children will get into this rhythmic process every day and their subconscious mind will create a frequency that will attract more of the same as they get older
• This helps to change the vibration and frequency of the world to a loving, supportive and peaceful place. We all have a part to play as we endeavor to shift the consciousness of our immediate world and beyond. Meditation, or mindfulness, trains your subconscious mind and your children’s in a powerful way.
If you feel moved to learn how to meditate, please find someone to learn from. Be it at a mediation studio (Unplugged), through the Transcendental Meditation Center, or call me, the Healing Guy…or search on your own for a teacher that can help you help yourself and your family.
Todd Kurpil is a healing a mediation specialist, whose mission in life is to bring consciousness to thought. http://Www.healingguy.com